Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Anyway by Mother Theresa

This is one of my favourite poems

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you've got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;
It was never between you and them anyway.

Sunday, March 16, 2014


There's a saying that every disappointment is a blessing but when you are going through it, it sure doesn't feel like a blessing. 

Disappointments can be of one life's most uncomfortable feelings! I remember facing a disappointment a while back that came to me at the speed of a bullet and by the time it landed I felt shattered. I just wasn't prepared. I was so disappointed and it took me a few days to get over it. I hope these tips will be a source of comfort to anyone facing a disappointment.

1. Let it out. Don't be under any obligation to just get over a disappointment. It will eat you up inside if you brush it away.  It is a known fact that many illnesses are brought on by harbouring negative emotions. Feel your emotions, cry, scream and let it all out.

2. Get some perspective. Have a broader view other than your own. Reach out to a trusted friend/ partner. You may even find yourself laughing later about the disappointment.

3. Practice acceptance. Accept what has happened, change what can be changed and move on.

4. Practice gratitude through times of disappointment, count your blessings and really name them one by one.

5. Give it to God. There's nothing more comforting than knowing and meditating on scripture in times of a disappointment. The Lord is really close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18)

Saturday, July 20, 2013

For wine lovers

True Confidence

Sometimes the storms and challenges of life can rock ones confidence; These are some tips for staying confident no matter what you are facing…feel free to add your own...

Look great, feel great; looking your best really does attract others. 
Let your body language show confidence ; smile more
Use positive self talk throughout the day; I am, I can
Set SMART goals
Maintain positive relationships 
Look within yourself; know your strengths and weaknesses but focus on your strengths
Do things you enjoy
Feel gratitude
Speak up and be noticed; contribute because your opinions matter
Seek the company of positive people ;Look for people who will bring out the best in you
Live by your principles
Challenge yourself
Celebrate frequently
Act confident
Know where your true confidence comes from; God!

Eba Etiquette

It's official! Nigerians do not want to use cutlery to eat eba in a professional setting. They say it's our culture to eat with our hands and besides the food taste better that way. So as an Etiquette guru here are my guidelines and best practice for using your hands to eat eba at a business event. (If you must and if it's allowed)

1. You must wash your hands before eating eba.
2. You must avoid draw soup.
3. You must not suck all your fingers while eating eba at a business event.
4. You must not spit out any bone onto your plate rather gently remove and place on plate.
5. You must not bring out your arm to greet someone when your hand is loaded with eba, unless you're in your villa.
6. You must never ask your colleague to pass over their half eaten eba in a professional setting.
7. You must not use the last ball of eba to lick the plate.
8. You must not use your fingers to remove all the bush meat in your teeth after eating.
9. You are not to fall asleep in the office after eating eba.
10. I leave point 10 for you my blog readers

Monday, February 25, 2013

Friends for Life

I’m a sucker for friendships. When I like a friend , I like them hard. But over the years I learnt how to manage friends because they come in all shapes and behaviours. Here are some points to look for with good friends.

Good friends are happy for your success. I mean genuinely happy

Good friends will help promote you and look for opportunities to help you along the way if they can

Good friends will discuss conflicts when they come up but in love

Good friends will always look out for your best interest

Good friends will keep your shared secrets even if you have a disagreement

Good friends will protect you passionately from people they think are against you

Good friends know when to give you space

Good friends respect boundaries

Good friends are not proud and are quick to say sorry. They will even say sorry at times just for peace
Good friends are for life.

Thursday, January 31, 2013

The joys of Elocution!

One of my passions is teaching children how to speak English clearly and properly. I’m working with a student on his forth coming declamation competition in school. This is the poem that he will be reciting.

Mummy Slept Late and Daddy Fixed Breakfast
By John Ciardi

Daddy fixed the breakfast.
He made us each a waffle.
It looked like gravel pudding.
It tasted something awful.
“Ha, ha,” he said, “I’ll try again.
This time I’ll get it right.”
But what I got was in between
Bituminous and anthracite.
“A little too well done? Oh well,
I’ll have to start all over.”
THAT time what landed on my plate
Looked like a manhole cover.
I tried to cut it with a fork:
The fork gave off a spark.
I tried a knife and twisted it
Into a question mark.
I tried it with a hack-saw.
I tried it with a torch.
It didn’t even make a dent.
It didn’t even scorch.
The next time Dad gets breakfast
When Mommy’s sleeping late,
I think I’ll skip the waffles,
I’d sooner eat the plate!